After much thought, I decided to put my "what if" post on my other blog. My other blog is for my family and friends. Its just a little blog to show pictures of things that we're up to.
I put my "what if" post on there and only got two comments. Both of those comments are from women who have gone through some sort of infertility issue. It just makes me think that people get so awkward around infertility. Its a subject that makes people uncomfortable. It might be because I'm more of an open person, but I don't get it. Going through the things I have has really made me realize that just acknowledging someone and what they are going through is so much better than ignoring. It makes me realize how important National Infertility Awareness Week is!
Now don't get me wrong, I didn't put that post up because I wanted sympathy, its just that I know people have read it and said nothing.
Have any of you noticed the same sort of issue?
Most certainly. While I got, what I considered to be, a lot of responses to my 'coming out' post on FB...anytime I post something else of a non-sensitive nature, other people respond w/in minutes. It sucks that IF has been in the closet so long that people don't know how to respond to it, even with a "I'm sorry you're going through this..". *shrug* The best we can do is keep putting it out there!
ReplyDeleteYup, but I noticed it more on facebook. I don't have an other blog, I think it's a shame but it shows we have long way to go.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry. I just went over to your other blog to read it and realized I had already read it on your blog a few days ago. It's wonderful. Thank you for putting your feelings out there.
ReplyDeleteI just got the courage to post on fb for Nat'l Infertility Awareness Week and same thing - NO response. In fairness, I think people know it's touchy so probably won't say anything but I would have expected some personal emails. Oh well. I'm feeling more empowered to put it out there and not be so afraid of it...
I haven't done the coming out thing, but I have noticed the same thing with in-person interactions. Like you - I'm a pretty open person, but it does become the "hushed conversation" type of thing.
ReplyDeleteYES! I am not "out" to very many people at all--really only just my family and two friends. Both my friends (one of which is very fertile) cried with me. My sister, on the other hand, hasn't said a word to me about it. At all. And she knew I had a miscarriage last fall! It is very hurtful to know that, like you, I went through a life changing event and she has yet to acknowledge it. Our relationship hasn't been the same since. I get that people might not know what to say about IF (like they might not know what to say if I told them I had cancer), but seriously how hard is it to tell someone you are thinking of them and ask how they are doing?
ReplyDeleteSorry to vent here, but this is a hot button issue for me. At least we have our blogs where everybody "gets it." Take care!
I am so sorry you didn't get the response you wanted (and deserved!) I am praying for you today.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you, I think people are just uncomfortable about the topic so they don't say anything. But the fact that you have exposed them to it and have educated them a little bit, at least they know. It just may take time for them to come around, but it gives them something to think about.
ReplyDeleteKudos to you for having the courage to post about your journey over there. I am sorry you didn't get the response you deserve.
ReplyDeleteI did a 'coming out' post on facebook... and nothing. Not a cricket. I think it's a subject people avoid like the plague because it makes them so uncomfortable. Even other IFers haven't commented on my What IF- though for 'us' I think it's more about only being able to handle so much in a day, lol.
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